When a friend or someone confides in you about a problem, we all have tendency to tell them clichéd stuff like: “ don’t worry!! it’s for the best…“ or “ God has a plan for you” or even worst, ” look!! there are others who suffer three times worst than you! this is nothing compared to their problems!” Now, look here, they come to you – swallowing all the pride that they have – not to get a counseling on optimism and all that crap; if that were the reason they could have just consulted a shrink and he would have done a better job at it than you, trust me. (Now, now, I KNOW that your mommy told you NOT to trust anyone who told you “trust me”, but in this case…TRUST ME!). They just want someone to listen to them; someone who would understand all their problems (however tiny, in comparison to the universe) and not push it off, saying the same old “… there are others…” crap; however tiny it is, it is their problem and by listening to them and not giving them your goddamn sympathy, you are actually telling them ” I care, no matter what.”
So next time someone talks to you, SHUT THE HELL UP and listen!!
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