Go Sleeveless Kochi. (Yea right!!)

I noticed a huge billboard advertising a Nivea product – a deodorant, in Kundannoor, Kochi. It said “Go Sleeveless, Kochi“. Mind you, it is not an ordinary deodorant!! It is a  whitening  deodorant. The first thought that came into my mind was, ”  Dear Nivea, You will need something more than a deodorant to make Kochi sleeveless.” It is not due to lack of fair under arms that we refrain from wearing sleeveless tops. It is because of propriety.

You see, I don’t think Nivea has a clear picture about Kochi’s (or rather whole of Kerala’s, I must say) sense of propriety. This is a place where men label  a woman a wanton because she did not cover her arms enough. A woman wearing a sari showing off half of her belly,chest and backside is a traditional woman with great values, though.

I find this very funny because, fifty or sixty years back women in this very same state had to go to court in order to gain the right to cover their upper body with a blouse. You know what is even  more funny? This very same society labels certain religions as barbaric because the women in these religions are required to cover themselves up. You’ve got a pretty messed up society, here Nivea. They have lost their priorities and  do not seem to know what is appropriate and what is not appropriate anymore.

I repeat: It would take something  more than a deodorant to make Kochi go sleeveless.


Accept As Is

I just had an epiphany. No matter how deep, your love for some people is, sometimes it is just not enough. By people I don’t mean “lovers” alone; they could be your friends, parents, siblings.. anyone.  But this is not the pathetic part of it all. The pathetic thing is that in spite of it all, you still hope for that moment when things will change; when your love is returned even if it is tossed out to you like a bread crumb. Well sweetheart, wake up!! I’m not telling you to move on. I’m not telling you to stop loving  people. But I want you to stop hoping whatever it is that you are hoping. Get real. That is all I’m asking from you. Don’t ever expect your love to be returned. Do this one thing, and you will be a happier person. Accept as is.